Check out this blog post by Amanda on May 22, 2012. This wedding is a great example of how simplicity, elegance and a dash of fun can come together. Not to mention how memories can be caught for a lifetime by a wonderfully skilled photographer. If you ever had any question as to why you should hire a professional photographer, hopefully, this will be your answer.
A Love That Lasts is a book that I found that shares insights from couples that have been married for 50 years and beyond. I tought who would know more about the secrets to a lasting marriage that that?!
This is the advise from Tom and Judy Harper – married November 29, 1947.
Much is said about the importance of “being committed to marriage”. But for the Harpers, commitment to an instituion – even one as time-honored as marriage – left them a bit cold. “I believe strongly in marriage,” Tom says, “but I’ve always focused on being committed to Judy, to her as a person.”
Judy adds, “Our love and passion is for each other. That’s what inspires us every day and what has brought us through some very difficult times. Illness. Crumbling finances. The physical changes that age brings. What I’ve learned through it all is this: You can respect, even revere, an instituion or ideal, but I’ve never been in love with one. I’m in love with Tom.”
Wow! I hope that after being married for 64 years, all of us can say that we are still “in love” with the person that we are married to.
If you are looking for some creative locales and ideas for your engagement session, we have some for you. All of these photos were taken in Northeast Oklahoma, but could translate to almost any locale. A special thanks to Andrea Murphy Photography, Storybook Wedding Photography and Artworks Tulsa Photography for sharing their fabulous photos.
The classic wedding toast is the rousing, funny, and slightly sentimental best man’s wedding toast. But he doesn’t have to be the only one to raise a glass to the happy couple! Here are the people you might want to ask to give a wedding toast:
- The Best Man (or Groom’s Honor Attendant) This is the one that’s most traditional, and is as close to non-optional as it gets. He makes people laugh a little bit, and maybe makes them cry when he talks about how much he loves the couple and adds some wise thoughts for their future. Tips on Giving a Great Best Man Speech
- The Maid of Honor (or Bride’s Honor Attendant) Why should it only be the groom’s best friend who gets to tell funny stories and sweet sentiments? Though not traditional, it’s becoming far more common for the maid of honor also to give a short wedding speech. It can be similar to the best man’s but with her own personality and style.
- The Parents If the bride’s father pays for the wedding, it is his job as host to welcome everyone and thank them for coming. Hopefully, he’s already shared the sentimental stuff at the rehearsal dinner so that this toast can be just a brief welcoming statement. However, if it was a joint effort to pay for the wedding, all of the parents may stand together as one of them gives a welcome on behalf of them all. If the couple has paid for the wedding entirely, then they can give this speech, but should omit any toasting.
- The Happy Couple This isn’t really a wedding toast, as the couple can’t raise a glass to themselves. But it is nice if they take the mike for a few moments. If they write and give the toast together, then they say thanks to everyone for coming, and especially to their parents and wedding party for everything they’ve done. If only the groom gives the toast, he first thanks the guests, and then his parents. He not only thanks his new spouse’s parents, but he also expresses his happiness at being a part of their family. He finishes by turning to his bride, saying how proud he is to be her husband and how much he loves her. (And hopefully they finish off with a loving kiss!)
Who Shouldn’t Give a Wedding Toast
- Anyone who’s drunk has no business on the microphone. Drunken wedding toasts are bound to be rambling, incoherent, and embarrassing. If your best man has gone overboard on cocktails, ask another groomsman to take him outside to sober up. With any luck, he’ll be able to give an eloquent and dignified speech before the night is through. If you’re not that lucky, then there’s no reason you can’t skip it. Better no speech at all than something mortifying!
- Tell your DJ or band leader not to give the mike to any unauthorized would-be toasters – even if they’re not drunk, you don’t need to allow anyone and everyone who’s feeling loquacious to take the floor. Save the honor for your nearest and dearest, and let other wellwishers express their feelings in a card!
- If you’re looking at your reception timeline, you may prefer to save more time for dancing, mingling, or eating, rather than having so many wedding toasts. Certainly, you’re not required to have any at all. More commonly, however, is to just have the best man’s speech, saving any other tributes for the rehearsal dinner.
This is a great article that I found on About.com.
by Susan Southerland, PWG Contributor
- Wedding cakes in France were typically a Croque en Bouche (pastry balls filled with cream and stacked in a pyramid then drizzled in caramel). What a great change from the traditional wedding cake.
- The French may have started the “after party” as well. Cheverie is the tradition of guests clanking pots and making noise in front of the honeymoon suite. Traditionally the groom invites the guests in the room for some snacks and drinks. The noisier part of this tradition might not go over very well if the honeymoon suite is in a crowded hotel or bed and breakfast, but if you plan to spend the night at home, invite your friends back for a while.
- Jumping the Broom has become a very popular African tradition in wedding planning. Slaves could not legally marry, so to symbolize a bond between husband and wife, the couple would jump a broom to start their new beginning together.
- Candied almonds are traditionally served at Italian weddings. The bitterness of the almond and the sweetness of the candy is said to remind everyone that marriage is for better and for worse. Life is bitter and sweet.
- Another fun Italian wedding planning tradition is to cut up the groom’s tie and auction the pieces off for money. Cash is given to the bride and groom to use on their honeymoon.
- Traditional Japanese weddings include the ceremonial drinking of sake. The bride and groom drink nine cups of sake, symbolizing the bonding of the couple. Family and guests also drink sake to reaffirm the bond.
- Traditionally Indian brides are decorated with henna prior to the wedding. At some wedding celebrations Mehndi artists are hired to decorate the hands and feet of wedding guests to wish the new bride happiness and luck in her future.
- At the end of a Jewish wedding ceremony, the groom steps on a glass and breaks it. This wedding planning custom has a couple of explanations. One states that the noise will scare away evil spirits, the other states that the couple will stay married as long as it takes to reassemble the glass.
- Having a piper lead the processional and recessional is a great way to incorporate Celtic tradition into your wedding planning. Hiring a ceilidh band for the cocktail hour or party is another great way to add Celtic flavor.
- At Russian weddings, a friend of the couple gives a toast at the beginning of the reception. All of the guests are to drink the champagne and throw the glasses to the floor. If the glass breaks when it hits, it is considered good luck for the bride and groom. Again, this is a tradition that works best at home rather than in a public reception facility.
This is just a small selection of ways to incorporate ethnic traditions into your wedding planning. The Internet is a valuable resource to find all kind of unusual ways to celebrate a wedding day. From ceremony to dinner and dancing, there are thousands of year’s worth of customs to try.
Weddings have come a long way from traditional white and ivory. From hot pink wedding gowns to splashes of bold-colored lights shining on the walls, no color is off limits on your wedding day!
But how do you know which color goes well with another color? How many colors are too many? Which color should you choose? In this free eBook, Wedding Color: Creating Your Signature Style, we’ll help you find the perfect palette for your wedding, and share the hottest colors for 2012 that brides across the country are adopting for their wedding day style.
The Perfect Wedding Guide Bridal Show offers an elegant and fun opportunity to plan your wedding and connect with leading wedding professionals in Tulsa, Oklahoma–all in one day, at one place. Be inspired with great ideas in a no-stress atmosphere.
Find the perfect menu, wedding accessories, flowers, wedding planners, venues–everything you need to make your wedding day as perfect as you’ve imagined.
Make the most of your most precious resource, time –and put some fun in your wedding planning. Pre-register early and receive BOGO tickets (this will save you $5 per ticket)!
Bridal Shows are a great way to get information and ideas for your special day, but for some it can be overwhelming. At the Perfect Wedding Guide Bridal Show, we do our best to make the event fun, relaxed and inviting. Here are a few tips to help you prepare and enjoy the show.
1. Preregister online to save time and money at the door. For our show you can go to www.tulsa.pwg.com to register in advance.
2. Bring preprinted lables that include your mame, contact information & wedding date. These can be used for entering contests and registering for giveaways.
3. Use the show as an interview process. Take the time to talk with potential vendors and see if your personalities are going to mesh. Don’t just pick up information to sort through later. It becomes harder to place the vendor with items/services that you want.
4. Attend the planning classrooms that are provided. This is a great way to take some of the stress out of your wedding planning.
5. If you are out of town, you can send a friend or mother to attend in your place.
6. Have FUN!
Step 1: Take a Realistic Look at Your Finances
Step 2: Be selective with the guest list
Step 3: Verify if others plan to contribute to your wedding expenses
Step 4: Open a separate “wedding” account to track spending
Step 5: Determine where you want to spend the most/least
Step 6: Pick a financially-feasible wedding essentials date
Step 7: Resist the urge to splurge
Setting a wedding essentials budget is the best way to manage spending as you plan your wedding. Knowing exactly what you can (and cannot) afford will help you better communicate with vendors, and each other, as you prepare for the wedding day of your dreams.
The best wedding receptions occur when you can feel the love in the room. It’s magical! You step inside the ballroom and all the guests are engaged. Even if they aren’t on the dance floor, they are swaying in their seats. Every bride and groom wants a wedding reception just like that. Making sure your guests get involved with your wedding isn’t difficult; it just takes a bit of planning. Follow a few of these suggestions and you will most certainly have a magical evening!
1. Start on Time. Don’t keep your guests waiting. Sitting around at the ceremony or staning at the cocktail hour (especially in the heat or cold) for an extended amount of time will frustrate your guests. Frustrated guests typically want to eat, drink and leave.
2. Interact with your guests. Greet as many as you can and thank them for coming. This thoughtful guesture will make each of your guests feel wedcome and loved.
3. Add personal touches. Old photographs, personalized place cards and memorable songs will engage your guests and draw them into the evening’s activities.
4. Provide conversations starters. If many of your guests don’t know each other, consider having place cards with trivia questions about you and your groom. Questions like “How did Susie and Bob meet?” or “Where did Bob propose?” will get people talking.
5. Be active in your reception. Guest take their cues from the newlyweds. If you are up dancing, your guests will be, too.
6. Play music that appeals to a variety of attendees. Start out with music that everyone recognizes and build up to the songs you and your friends like as the evening progresses.
7. Keep all entertainment inside the reception room. Anything that draws your guests away from the reception room will detract from the reception. Photo booths, photo presentations, caricature artists, etc. should all be stationed inside the reception room.
8. Make sure the music isn’t too loud. If the music drowns out conversation at the guests’ tables, they are more likely to walk out of the reception room to take a break from the sound. As the reception room empties, the party will slow down.
9. Keep the party moving. According to traditional etiquette, it is proper to leave only after the cake is cut. Holding guests “hostage” if they want to leave isn’t a good way to get them involved. Cutting the cake after dinner allows the guests who want to eat dessert and leave to feel comfortable doing so. Leave the partying to those who want to party.
10. Allow group dances. Most people who don’t feel comfortable dancing solo will join a big group on the dance floor. Some couples shy away from them because they think that group dances are “cheesy”. They are so many from which to choose that you and your band or DJ can find one that will work well with your group.
For more planning tips, pick up a copy of Perfect Wedding Guide or go to http://northeast-oklahoma.perfectweddingguide.com/