A Love That Lasts: Respect the institution, but love the person

A Love That Lasts is a book that I found that shares insights from couples that have been married for 50 years and beyond. I tought who would know more about the secrets to a lasting marriage that that?!

This is the advise from Tom and Judy Harper – married November 29, 1947.

Much is said about the importance of “being committed to marriage”. But for the Harpers, commitment to an instituion – even one as time-honored as marriage – left them a bit cold. “I believe strongly in marriage,” Tom says, “but I’ve always focused on being committed to Judy, to her as a person.”

Judy adds, “Our love and passion is for each other. That’s what inspires us every day and what has brought us through some very difficult times. Illness. Crumbling finances. The physical changes that age brings. What I’ve learned through it all is this: You can respect, even revere, an instituion or ideal, but I’ve never been in love with one. I’m in love with Tom.”

Wow! I hope that after being married for 64 years, all of us can say that we are still “in love” with the person that we are married to.

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  1. Christian marriage cnsoueling, I believe, has greater potential as an active ingredient in the healing process than any other type of therapy. Why? Because marriage between a man and woman is God’s plan so it only stands to reason that the repair procedures for an unhealthy marriage could be found in His word.My wife and I went through Christian marriage cnsoueling provided a trained, licensed, minister of the faith who was exceptionally gifted in using the Word of God to help couples in the reconciliation process. These are important credentials in choosing a counselor. What makes Christian marriage cnsoueling effective is the willingness of the couple to truly uncover, forgive, and die-to-self. It has to be understood that none of these things are within our human ability to accomplish alone. We need the help of the Holy Spirit to facilitate the type of radical change that must take place in one’s heart, deep down inside, in order for real change to take place. You’ll know it is happening when your focus is less on what your mate is doing than what you are doing in and with your relationship with God.Fifteen years later, my wife and I are stronger than ever. Has the road been free of bumps? No. But I have heard it said that if the mountain were as smooth as glass, you wouldn’t be able to climb it. We are still living in and by what we learned in Christian marriage cnsoueling. Our marriage is not about determination and resolve to make it work; its about the freedom to love one another and let the other be who they are with full faith and confidence that what holds us together is not our resolve, but trust and assurance in Jesus Christ that He is able to sustain us through any storm that might come our way.

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