A Love That Lasts is a book that I found that shares insights from couples that have been married for 50 years and beyond. I tought who would know more about the secrets to a lasting marriage that that?!
This is the advise from Tom and Judy Harper – married November 29, 1947.
Much is said about the importance of “being committed to marriage”. But for the Harpers, commitment to an instituion – even one as time-honored as marriage – left them a bit cold. “I believe strongly in marriage,” Tom says, “but I’ve always focused on being committed to Judy, to her as a person.”
Judy adds, “Our love and passion is for each other. That’s what inspires us every day and what has brought us through some very difficult times. Illness. Crumbling finances. The physical changes that age brings. What I’ve learned through it all is this: You can respect, even revere, an instituion or ideal, but I’ve never been in love with one. I’m in love with Tom.”
Wow! I hope that after being married for 64 years, all of us can say that we are still “in love” with the person that we are married to.