7 Steps for Setting (and following) a Wedding Budget.

Setting a wedding essentials budget is a smart way to stay on track with spending during your wedding planning. Here we offer a practical step-by-step guide to help keep things sailing smoothly toward your big day.

Step 1: Take a Realistic Look at Your Finances

If you and your fiance are handling to the bulk of the wedding costs, figure up how you can each comfortably contribute to the budget without going into the red (starting a marriage in debt is not a wise decision!). Money is a touchy subject, and being honest and upfront about how much you have to spend on your wedding will not only squash confusion, it will also lay the foundation for how to resolve money issues once you’re married.

Step 2: Be selective with the guest list

An important step in setting your wedding essentialsbudget is to determine how many people you will want to invite to your ceremony and reception. The guest list dictates the amount of space you’ll need to accommodate your well-wishers, the quantity of food caterers must prepare for the reception meal, and other key budgetary considerations. Besides, it’s a no-brainer that the less people you invite, the less you’ll need to spend!

Step 3: Verify if others plan to contribute to your wedding expenses

Families of the bride and groom will often offer to pay for some—if not all—of the wedding essentials expenses. If you’re uncomfortable asking your parents for cash, how about asking them to purchase certain items like the wedding cake, or let them pick up the tab for the rehearsal dinner. Whether your family pays a portion of your wedding costs or foots the entire bill, having others contribute to your wedding budget will certainly relieve the stress of limited cash flow.

Step 4: Open a separate “wedding” account to track spending

Once you’ve pulled your wedding funds together, you’ll want to place them into a bank account solely devoted to paying wedding expenses. This way you won’t mix everyday money with your specially allocated funds.

Step 5: Determine where you want to spend the most/least

Some wedding essentials-centered items and services automatically come with a hefty price tag. Point blank. Period. But knowing where to shell out the big bucks and where to cut costs can make all the difference in your planning. Create a list of wedding services that you don’t mind spending more money on, and those that you’ll be fine with scaling back from. For example, you might want to hire a pricey, but renowned wedding photographer to snap every moment of your wedding day, but opt for a beer and wine only reception instead of an open bar. No matter where you choose to save or spend, it should be something you can both agree on.

Step 6: Pick a financially-feasible wedding essentials date

Certain times of year are more expensive for having a wedding. Holidays generate the most money in the wedding industry (Labor Day weekend, Thanksgiving and Christmas/New Years). Vendors are also in higher demand, so expect an up-charge in services if you’re setting a date around these times. However, if you’re able to show flexibility with your wedding date, you’ll find some great deals. And never be afraid to negotiate—many wedding wedding essentialsvendors are willing to work around your budget.

Step 7: Resist the urge to splurge

It’s easy to get swept up in all things opulent when dreaming of your wedding day. You want everything to be perfect . . . but not at the expense of a small fortune. As Step 5 states that while it’s OK to pay a little more for big ticket items (i.e. food and beverage, photography, floral design), you should still remember to impart good judgment with your spending. For instance, as much as you’d love to give each of your bridal attendants Swarovski crystal picture frames as “thank you” gifts, there are less-expensive options they’ll appreciate just as much as the pricier versions. Remember to shop smarter when selecting items for your wedding; you’ll soon find that most everything under the sun has a less-expensive counterpart.
Setting a wedding essentials budget is the best way to manage spending as you plan your wedding. Knowing exactly what you can (and cannot) afford will help you better communicate with vendors, and each other, as you prepare for the wedding day of your dreams.
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Wedding Receptions: 10 ways to get your guest involved

The best wedding receptions occur when you can feel the love in the room. It’s magical! You step inside the ballroom and all the guests are engaged. Even if they aren’t on the dance floor, they are swaying in their seats. Every bride and groom wants a wedding reception just like that. Making sure your guests get involved with your wedding isn’t difficult; it just takes a bit of planning. Follow a few of these suggestions and you will most certainly have a magical evening!

Photo by Storybook Wedding Photography

1. Start on Time. Don’t keep your guests waiting. Sitting around at the ceremony or staning at the cocktail hour (especially in the heat or cold) for an extended amount of time will frustrate your guests. Frustrated guests typically want to eat, drink and leave.

2. Interact with your guests. Greet as many as you can and thank them for coming. This thoughtful guesture will make each of your guests feel wedcome and loved.

3. Add personal touches. Old photographs, personalized place cards and memorable songs will engage your guests and draw them into the evening’s activities.

4. Provide conversations starters. If many of your guests don’t know each other, consider having place cards with trivia questions about you and your groom. Questions like “How did Susie and Bob meet?” or “Where did Bob propose?” will get people talking.

5. Be active in your reception. Guest take their cues from the newlyweds. If you are up dancing, your guests will be, too.

6. Play music that appeals to a variety of attendees. Start out with music that everyone recognizes and build up to the songs you and your friends like as the evening progresses.

7. Keep all entertainment inside the reception room. Anything that draws your guests away from the reception room will detract from the reception. Photo booths, photo presentations, caricature artists, etc. should all be stationed inside the reception room.

8. Make sure the music isn’t too loud. If the music drowns out conversation at the guests’ tables, they are more likely to walk out of the reception room to take a break from the sound. As the reception room empties, the party will slow down.

9. Keep the party moving. According to traditional etiquette, it is proper to leave only after the cake is cut. Holding guests “hostage” if they want to leave isn’t a good way to get them involved. Cutting the cake after dinner allows the guests who want to eat dessert and leave to feel comfortable doing so. Leave the partying to those who want to party.

10. Allow group dances. Most people who don’t feel comfortable dancing solo will join a big group on the dance floor. Some couples shy away from them because they think that group dances are “cheesy”. They are so many from which to choose that you and your band or DJ can find one that will work well with your group.

 For more planning tips, pick up a copy of Perfect Wedding Guide or go to http://northeast-oklahoma.perfectweddingguide.com/

Top 10 Modern Love Songs for your First Dance

If you are looking for songs that have not been overused from years of being played at weddings, you might check out these options. The classics are always good, but don’t fit everyones personality. The first dance between a bride and groom helps set the tone for the reception.

Photo by Storybook Wedding Photography

1. “No One” — Alicia Keys
2. “L.O.V.E.” — Joss Stone
3. “Make You Feel My Love” — Adele
4. “Come Away with Me” — Norah Jones
5. “When You Say Nothing At All” — Allison Krauss
6. “Be Still” — Kelly Clarkson
7. “Half of my Heart” — John Mayer
8. “Better Together” — Jack Johnson
9. “Don’t Want to Miss a Thing” — Aerosmith
10. “For You” — Kenny Latimore

What songs have you been hearing at the Tulsa Weddings you’ve attended lately?

For more songs and inspiration, go to Perfect Wedding Guide.

Photo provided by Storybook Wedding Photography

Summit Club Open House 1-5-12

On January 5, 2012 the Summit Club of Tulsa hosted an Open House. Sponsor vendors included Perfect Wedding Guide, Artworks Tulsa Photography, Zach Downing Productions, Paper 8, Ms. Laura’s Cakes and Erica Weddings.

Spectacular View from the Summit Club

Check out the beautiful view from the 30th floor. What a fabulous backdrop for any Tulsa wedding reception.

White Dance Floor provided by Zach Downing Entertainment

This white dance floor helps add a touch of elegance and shows off the uplighting also provided by Zach Downing Entertainment.

Miss Laura's Cakes

Miss Laura’s Cakes provided a tasty treat for the brides that attended the open house. The cake was adorned with handmade sugar flowers.


The tables were showcased with black vases with white roses and a bright pink table runner added a splash of color.

Custom Menus by Paper 8

Paper 8 provided custom designed menus and table markers which followed the color scheme and elegant theme of the night.

All the brides that attended left with a swag bag that included two tickets to the Perfect Wedding Guide Bridal Show on March 4, 2012. Thanks to all the sponsors for their hard work.

Photos by Artworks Tulsa Photography